Many couples get lazy with sex! They go into it as a matter of routine. No wonder that it sometimes becomes boring and altogether pushed to the back burner in a relationship!
Yet, sex experts are saying that in order for sex to be exciting and ‘new’ each time, you can spice it up in a lot of ways as follow…
Try new position: Even if both of you have an easier time reaching orgasm in one position (as do most women), you can still try other positions. For instance, moving around during sex, and changing positions, has several benefits. It not only helps the man last longer, it also helps increase the excitement factor.
For instance, the woman can get on top, move the legs around and find a good angle. Make it a goal that every third time you make love, you’ll use at least three positions. So maybe two times are fun and simple, but then, spice the third time up!
Tilt your pelvis: For women to reach an orgasm, the clitoris must be stimulated in some way. Normal missionary position sex doesn’t tend to do this. But with one simple trick, you can make it so much better. Encourage your woman to tilt up her pelvis (by squeezing her butt muscles).
This makes the angle better, so that when he’s thrusting, he will hit your clitoris. But you also engage his penis because the tilting squeezes the clitoris. You can do this in any position and enhance the pleasure.
Start with a massage: Couples are encouraged to start sex with a massage. Keep some massage oil on the bedside table, or a massage candle, and start by massaging each other’s backs and legs.
The benefits? It helps you relax first. Also, if you massage naked, it’s very sensual, and it can get the libido going. It also shows that both of you care, it helps your bodies to relax, and it helps both of you to calm down mentally.
Play teacher: Just because you’re married doesn’t mean that you understand each other sexually. What feels good to one person does not necessarily feel good to another. And men tend to like being touched very differently than women do (men like things rougher and more deliberate; women tend to like things lighter).
Also, just because something is an erotic zone does not mean that it wants to be touched all the time. For instance, many women don’t like their breasts touched roughly at all, or even handled that much; but when they’re highly aroused all of a sudden, it’s exciting. So, tell each other exactly what to do. The advantage here is that, couples may think they’ve lost their libido when really their bodies have just changed and responds to different things now